Forging Lasting Friendships

Developing and Maintaining Friendships

Sometimes it is not easy being friends with someone.  It feels like it is one-sided and probably it is.  If you’re in this kind of friendship relationship, you should speak up and let your friend know how you feel.  Perhaps your friend is dealing with some difficult situation and it is your turn to be there for him or her, but if it is a constant in your relationship and not reciprocated, this is not a healthy relationship.  To maintain and nurture good friendships you need to build real and healthy expectations of what your friend will do or not do for you.  Try to work through misunderstandings with open communication and clearly express your feelings but always conscious of the other person’s side.  Put yourself in your friend’s shoes and try to see the misunderstanding from her perspective.  Cultivating friendships is a give and take.  Sometimes friends will disappoint you, unbeknownst to them, perhaps, but you may also have disappointed them.  Accept that people are not perfect and as long as you are there for each other and you have each others’ back, that’s all that matters.

In the end, having true friends is what makes life meaningful.  Sharing our lives with others, through the good and the bad, the happy and the sad, that’s what friends are for.


Friendship consists in forgetting what one gives and remembering what one receives. – Alexander Dumas